Men and Women Brain Distinction

      If you are a woman, I am sure sometimes, if not often you happen to feel disappointed by the way your couple responds to what you need him to. For instance, you want him to listen carefully to your grumble about your boss, but what he did is to your thinking, not as a good listener because he cannot move his eyes from the television screen. Then you start to get mad but he insists on saying that he is listening to you! Well, it happened to me sometime in the past, but I finally understood that it has something to do with the distinction of brain structure between men and women which to me, has some philosophical issues.

     In the case sample above, the condition reveals the basic differences between how men and women communicate ruled by the brains. Women brain tends to have bigger sense of emotion as women have larger deep limbic system. Meanwhile men brain tends to be task-oriented. So, what your couple does is truly listening to your saying but he does not simply and easily capture the emotion that you feel. What he does is trying to analyze what was happening by linking each detail of the information given. Thus, he may give more logical opinion or solution. However, in this same case, the other possibility is which is worse; your couple does indeed not pay attention. In this case, it is not because he ignores you or considering you hyperbolize everything but it is due to men brain cannot cope with doing more than one thing at once. Men have fewer connecting fiber between the hemispheres. So, men cannot branch their attention as good as women do.        
     Nevertheless, men may focus on one problem better than women. Regarding the case sample, your couple may be so deeply absorbed by the TV program that he could not really pay attention to you. Personally, I think this difference has been designed to meet the need of men and women daily life. Women brain is designed to be able to do more things at once, because women have indeed larger role in life. For example, as a working mom, we often deal with preparing the documents needed to be brought to the office while also finding the shock for the kids and answering a telephone call! On the other side, men get more leadership position, perhaps for they have better projection on only one goal problem which is sharp and deep.

     The different brain structure also influences the language capability and language choice between men and women. Research has found that women achieve more success in language learning. As an English teacher for years, I notice that my female students are better in learning the foreign language. It is due to women process language in both hemispheres while men dominantly do it in the left hemisphere. In addition, linguists have also found that men and women have different words choice to express a similar thing. Some words are more associated with women such as lovely, beautiful, cute and some other similar adjectives which sound more feminine. Men, tend use words such as great, good, brilliant, and short of.

     These whole differences may even be recognized in kids. If you are a mom like me, you will notice the difference. My little boy will usually deeply focus on his new toy, by sometimes breaking it into pieces because he wants to know what are there. So he will ignore my calling. On the opposite, my little daughter will tend to ask me to play doll with her. Again, this deals with the structure that men brain focuses on the object while women’s need to maintain an emotional relationship.

     So, just don’t easily get frustrated if you find this annoying case in your relationship. As men and women think differently as we have different brain structure, designed based on the need of each.